You’re just not where you want to be in life. You wake up to another day you don’t want to go through. Your job isn’t fulfilling, your relationship has run its course, you’re not happy with your body, your living arrangements are not ideal and your family is over 6,000 miles away. That’s a lot to be sad about, isn’t it? Well that was exactly what I woke up to not so long ago.
I’ve had my fair share of those days and all I did was complain about the things that weren’t making me happy. The problem with complaining is that: it IS a problem. It doesn’t solve the issue at hand and makes whatever you’re going through worse. You then spiral into unhappiness and discontent, ruining your mood, your day, your future and relationships with those around you.
Bemoaning your current situation is not going to change anything, and focusing on what you’re not happy with is not going to bring you the life that you truly want.
Here are some of the things that can help you get out of the rut that you are mentally in..
1. Find your purpose
What alleviated the pain of being where I didn’t want to be, was to first find a purpose. And for me, that purpose became my blog. I took my love for writing, took my experiences, brought them together to put some positive messages out there in to the stratosphere.
Some people don’t know what that purpose is, but you need to find it. If you can’t find it right NOW, just start doing things that will make you FEEL like you have a purpose. It could be anything, anything at all – volunteering at the animal shelter (I did this, so much fun!), starting a Facebook or Meetup group for like-minded people or even learning a new language (actually doing this right now!).
2. Get happy
So, whilst working towards my life’s purpose, which was building my blog, I did my best to uplift my spirits, be positive and grateful for all the things that I did have, instead of looking at what I didn’t. I did everything I could to put myself in a positive state of mind – from listening to inspirational Podcasts, visualizing where I really wanted to be, and talking to positive people who shared their words of wisdom with me. My mother always says, “You have to belly laugh three times a day! Even if you don’t feel like it, make yourself laugh!”
I understand it can be very hard to get happy, grateful and positive when you’re not where you want to be in life and I understand it takes a lot of internal strength to visualize where you truly want to be. But…
3. Just Don’t Stop
The reality is, we all need to keep chasing our dreams. Because if we don’t keep moving and taking one step after the other and keep moving forward with the goals we want to achieve, then we’ll be stuck in the same place, we’ll never get anywhere and we will continuously be unhappy with where we are.
So, there’s only one way to go and that’s up. To keep moving forward, to keep rising, to keep chipping away at what you want and how you want it.
Because if you don’t keep charging at what you want like a bull, you’ll remain stuck where you are. So, if you want to get anywhere, you gotta keep moving, you gotta keep walking, you gotta keep sprinting, you gotta keep planning, you gotta keep executing. Take a rest when you’re tired and catch your breath but don’t turn that rest into a permanent holiday. Dreams don’t have holidays.
4. Be afraid of the KNOWN
And be afraid, very afraid of remaining where you are. Don’t be afraid of the unknown, don’t be afraid of uncertainty. When you take the steps to creating the life that you want to live, don’t fear failing, don’t fear change. What you should really fear is remaining where you are and not moving forward.
Don’t fear the unknown, fear the known.
Don’t fear that you will make a wrong move or wrong step when you move out of your comfort zone, you should fear staying in your comfort zone. And the fear of being stuck where you are for the rest of your life should give you the drive, power and motivation to keep moving forward even in the dark times.
Tony Robbins says, “To make changes in life, you need either inspiration or desperation.” These are the only two reasons humans make changes in life. And what I’m saying is, don’t wait for DESPERATION to start. Get INSPIRED now, get yourself off the couch and make something of your life.